Relationships are strengthened when people get hurt.
If a relationship never had any flaws, there would be no strengthening.
It takes hurts to build empathy, trust, and love.
It takes fights to build stamina.
It takes guts to stick it out.
We are reminded of our past fights, and we get to a point where we can skip the emotions of the self and look at the root problem.
We can look at the other person and try to help, rather than be affected by the pain and withdraw.
When this point is reached, some maturing has taken place, and the relationship is stronger.
Fights will always come, but withstanding them is what strengthens a relationship, not avoiding them.
Some say it is 'healthy' to fight.
I say that it is strength to get through fights, but we shouldn't try to make them.
Seek God first and follow His Word, and all the other pieces will fit together on their own.
He will handle the rest.